How Can You Better Manage Change?, A. K. Andrew Writer's notebook

Fall gourds by A.K. Andrew

As Fall is finally upon us, I’ve been thinking recently about the change in seasons. When I lived in England, although I loved the Fall colors, I was always filled with dread at the thought of winter – bitterly cold days, getting dark at 4 pm and some days when it was so dull you have to keep the lights on all day.

As I now live in Norther California, my sense of dread has lessened, but I was still reluctant to let go of the summer this year.
Until last weekend…. when I went to a harvest fair at a local state park. I realized I was being stubborn and there is so much to love about all the seasons, wherever you are in the world.,

Tractor & Barn by A.K. Andrew

As I mentioned in my last blog post, I’m embarking on a new journey with producing a coloring book, and my novel writing has been taking a back seat. My thoughts on all of this is how to remain centered in the midst of change, whether it’s the seasons, one’s business, relationships, moving house, or changing artistic pursuits.
My answer to better embrace change is really to embrace the now. Whatever the change is that’s coming, it’s probably going to happen irregardless. So why not take it on board, make the most of it and try not to get caught up looking in the rearview mirror.

Owl by A.K. Andrew

Writing like life, is fluid. When your characters don’t behave the way you want, you can’t force them. So if you want to better manage change, without sounding to hippyish, then I say “Go with the flow”.
Enjoy the Fall and whatever other changes are happening in your life. I hope we can all learn to embrace change a little bit more each time it happens. Life is now. And to me that’s the important piece that helps to keep me centered.

How well do you deal with change? Do you like change, or are you dragged there kicking and screaming?

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  1. I think we all have a different approach to change; some embrace it and some fear it. I fit somewhere in the middle. I do get a bit of anxiety when things must change, but after the initial feelings of overwhelming, I’m always surprised to find how quickly I do adapt.
    Looking forward to your coloring book! 🙂
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  2. We do no like change, but as with the seasons it is inevitable. Spring, Summer, Fall Winter, is a never ending process, it comes every year and repeats the next. We should look at change in our lives that way. Something which will remove someone we are use to, but exchange it with something new and fresh, something different and has its own values.

  3. Nothing wrong with sounding hippyish! I actually like change – my husband doesn’t which is a bit of a problem. Glad you have embraced Fall – it’s my favorite season!
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    • That made me laugh Jan – I guess it’s a fine line between being in touch with the world around you and not wanting to sound like a cliche – don’t like the phrase new age, so apish did seem to fit:-) I’ve often thought fall is my favorite season, but really I think it’s spring.
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  4. Agree with you, AK, about going with the flow. The only thing that’s certain in life is that everything’s uncertain, apart from seasons:-) So we have to be flexible,open minded, adaptable and find ways to let uncertainties work for us.
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  5. I feel the same way about Fall, and about change! I know season’s change all year ’round, but for some reason Fall is the hardest for me to take, even though it does have some really lovely attributes. Here’s to embracing change!
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    • I see we’re on the same page Meredith. As you say, Fall has so much going for it – the colors the various celebrations, clear crisp days etc. But it’s what’s at the end of the tunnel that puts the damper on it sometimes. But, yes – here’s to embracing change:-)
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  6. I’m really glad I live somewhere where there are four distinct seasons. Places with the same weather all year don’t really appeal to me, other than maybe gettin gout of the cold for a bit in the middle of February. But when you think of the seasons as adapting to change you have to keep in mind that is is a change we go through the same way year after year after year. Changes that bring something you haven’t experienced before can create a much more anxious experience.
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    • I agree with enjoying a change in the seasons. I lived in San Francisco for many years, and the variation is there but it can be subtle at times. Where I live now, further north, clearly has four seasons and I really appreciate that, especially as the winters are relatively mild, but still with frost in the mornings – sweaters & warm clothes definitely needed. Sun 24/7 all year long is not the climate for me.And you’re right that other kinds of change that are unexpected and not something we are used to is quite a different matter.
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  7. You gotta love Northern California weather. I remember the extreme change of seasons from the Midwest and east coast well and I don’t like THAT much change. Lol. Other than that, I’m with you all the way though. Go with the flow is a great motto to live by!
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    • Yes I DO love N. California weather. Its great to have all the seasons but without the extreme cold. Even the winter weather in England which is nothing compared to the midwest or East Coast can really get to you. So hey, let’s go with the flow Susan:-)
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  8. Using the onset of fall and the dread of winter to take about change resonated with me. My husband and I have spent the last three winters away from our cold Canadian home in Arizona. This winter will be different. We plan to be away for a good chunk of it, but we will also be around for part of it. I think the best way to deal with it will be to embrace and enjoy the time we are here. On a deeper level, I generally embrace change, but it does depend on the type of change. Some changes that have and are occurring around me this year are tougher to deal with. I’m learning to go with the flow and adapt.
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    • Sounds like time in AZ as well as Canada is a great idea – a nice balance in fact. Sorry to hear you are dealing with difficult changes. Life can be very challenging sometimes, and inevitably those challenges deal with changes we neither planned nor want. I hope you are able to find a way to go with the flow, however hard that may be. Thanks for stopping by Donna:-)
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  9. I’ve been working a lot on embracing the now in this new chapter of my life. I think back to all the times I tried to force myself into a box rather than go with the flow. It’s so true that what is going to happen will happen regardless.
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    • You’ve had a tough bit of change to deal with Jeri – but managed it as well as anyone possibly could, I would say. Fighting it really does make it worse. Well done on surviving the year and coming to the end of it with a thriving business:-)
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  10. I face change when it is presented to me. I embrace change at some times more than others if I can immediately see the benefits.
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    • Good for you Phoenicia facing change head on. You make a good point about it being more difficult when you can’t always see the benefit. fighting the inevitable, however difficult doesn’t seem the way to go though. Thanks so much for stopping by:-)
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  11. Lovely thoughts and Fall has always been my favorite time of year. I am a change maven and love a good adventure – seriously – I tend to look for things to shake up. No clue where that came from because it certainly isn’t a trait shared by my family, and it used to drive my ex-husband crazy. Our first trip to Europe he was not at all a happy camper to learn our 2nd week of 3 in Europe I’d arranged no hotel accommodations thinking it would be great fun to just wing it as we traveled through Southern France. And, after Mr. Grumpy Pants got over himself it was. 🙂
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    • Wow – what a pioneer Marquita! I used to be much more like that myself, especially with traveling. But that was when I was in my twenties. I hate the fact Ive become less flexible so I’m in awe that you’ve managed to keep that going. I love the story of Mr. Grumpy Pants too. Thanks so much for stopping by:-)
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  12. The good and bad thing about life is that it’s dynamic and in a constant state of flux. We don’t’ really how much our life changes because we rarely live in the moment. We only notice the dramatic changes. Perhaps that’s the reason we resist change ,we haven’t learned how to flow with the bends and curves through our jouney
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    • What an excellent point you make Pamela – it’s so true that we are constantly in change. Often its only in retrospect that we realize how much things have moved on, whether we have wanted them to or not. You could be right on why we are resistant to change. Plus as a society we tend to emphasize stability as a huge positive – which of course it is in many ways – but perhaps we let that philosophy overflow into areas that we’d deal with better if we were more flexible. Thank you for stopping by:-)
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  13. My husband loves seasons and so we live in mountainous Arizona now. Personally, I liked Santa Barbara, where there are no seasons – just events – earthquakes, etc.!
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    • What’s quite the different outlook between yourself and your husband Beth – I’m glad you’ve managed to work that out. The fall must be gorgeous up in the mountains though. I hope you’re enjoying it this year. Thanks so much for stopping by Beth:-)
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  14. Upon thinking about it, I would say that I have a schizophrenic attitude toward change. I am risk-averse to a fault and generally have to be dragged to change kicking and screaming, but on the other side of the change I am almost always glad I went through with it, if that makes any sense.

    BTW, I am a big fan of owls as well. I’ve always wanted a yellow T-shirt with a great horned owl on the front – wouldn’t that be cool? – I’ll have one made up someday.
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    • I know what you mean Andy – I can really hate the idea of something , and then realize it’s actually a very positive change. Funny how we can be so stubborn of things. Insecurities are such a bug bear sometimes.Your T-shirt idea sounds great. Thanks for stopping by:-)
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  15. A.K. — as you may know, I moved to Florida in July. As a dyed-in-the-wool New Yorker I thought they’d carry me out feet first. But now that I’m here I’m embracing change and loving it. There is so much to do and now I get to hop in my car and get to go wherever I want when I want to. The last two winters in NY were miserable and I no longer feel that dread of winter approaching. It’s in the 80’s here and sunny. Change is fearful, but can also be life-changing.
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    • Its amazing how our priorities can change as we get older. It’s so refreshing to hear how much you’re enjoying such a major change in your life. And how liberating to lose that dread of winter! I feel the same here in northern California even though it’s getting kind of chilly. But with a high of 68 today, I’m not complaining! Always good to see you here Jeanette:-)
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